Love last long

My friend had wanted me to write anything about love and here is something that I would love to share with everyone.

My grandpa passed away a few weeks ago. He was diagnosed with lung cancer 2 years back. Sometime I wonder what had gone wrong because people who smoked for years and years lived till very old age but my grandpa quit smoking for almost 50 yrs now yet, he was still diagnosed with lung cancer. Fair? I certainly doubt so. Anyway, life is so fragile, I can't say much.

When my grandpa was still alive, he and my grandma used to have a hobby. They love to take any buses to anywhere in Singapore (well, how big can Singapore be?). They can board the bus from AMK and sit until the next terminal. Along the way, they will just talk or just look at the road. They used to be our live directory. I find that the things that they do together kind of sweet because it is something that both of them enjoy as husband and wife. Of course, life is not always sweet. They have a lot of differences in their character and they argued a lot. Sometime I pity my grandma because she seems to be always the one to keep quiet and let my grandpa continue with his nonsense (It runs in my family where the men showed so much ego that the only thing that the women can do is shut up). Sometime when you see the topic of their argument, you will feel like scolding my grandpa for being so childish.

I only realised the reason for her being mum and be tolerant is because that she loved my grandpa too much. She rather she is the one taking all the bitterness. Only after my grandpa passed away than I realised how important it is to have someone there throughout your old age. Although my grandma missed my grandpa but the only thing that she could do now is to look at past photos, keeping my grandpa memories with her. It hurts to see your only partner left you like that. Eventhough there may be lots of arguments and anger, but that is something that they both do together. Now only left with my grandma alone. It simply hurt. There is a sweet saying that I heard from somewhere that if I love the person, I will let him/her die before me because it is more painful to stay alive alone. I truely understand that saying. My grandma is brave enough to let my grandpa die (she could not do much anyway). She has asked the mighty one out there to give him two more years to enjoy and the wish came true so she has no regret now letting him go.

Actually it make me real sad talking about it. I just wish that everyone of you out there who has a partner right now, treasure the memories that you have with him/her. Be content and just be loving....

By Anoymous